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Unlikely couple part three

I went back to hagerville. It had been a good day. I was not sure what would happen next. Both of us were prety much winging it. It was quute a day. Quite a day indeed! 

Another week went by. I was busy with church activities. I was enjoying my work. I was enjoying doing the work of the lord. 

I was in my office. It was my day off but i was catching up with some paper work. I wanted to do a couple of things and then i will take the rest of my day off. 

I heard the door open. I was not sure who it was. I left my office. It was becky. “Hi there reverend becky. Your still hear! You did not melt!” i remarked. “Funny! Hey pastor wallice! ” she said. He laughed. 

“I got you an ice cofee. Its mocha three creams two sugars! ” she saidni smiled. “Thank you. I appreciate that! ” i told her. “No problem!  ” she said. 

“What are you doing hear?” i asked. Using air qoates she said that she was in the neighborhood on bussiness. 

“The truth is i wanted to see you.i thought this was your day off?” she commented. “It is. I Am a bit of a workaholic i guess. Are you in a rush to get back or can you hang out for a bit. I would love to give you a tour of the area. There is a park we can hang out in. ” he said. 

“Sounds great! I would love it. ” she replied. “Awsome!” he said. The two left the church building.  “My car or yours?” i asked. “I will ride in yours. You probably dont want to ride in a car with a united Methodist bumper sticker. ” she said. “Oh ok,we will go in myine then. ” i said. She smiled and said an exited ok.

They headed to the car. I got in the drivers seat and she got in the passengers side of the car. I started the car. The car headed out.

“So originaly we met in my house. Then in the town hall. Then we brought this building. It was an ice cream store and a dance studio.” he said. “That is quite a change!” he said. “Yes it is. ” he said 

We came to my street.  “This is my street. This is my house. I got some mony from my grand parents esate.i decided to buy land and the house. Its smal but nice. There is some land. We actualy had some services outside in the early days. There is room for a garden and kids could play in it. ” i said. 

What was i doing.was i really hinting at domastic life? Aperently i was. “So. Did you buy the land with thoughts of being maried with kids?”she asked. “I considered it. “He said. 

“Then you do want to married?” she asked. “I do. I am prety buisy . i have not had time to date. I dont feel comfortable dating someone at the church. I dont want to date a non christian. I would like a partner in the ministry.  My house coud use a women touch. “He said 

They went to a bridge. He showed her various sites. Then they went to the park. They sat at a table. “So do you want to be maried?” i asked her.  “I do. I worry that i am just too dominering. I am woried most men would be intimidated by me. ” she said. 

“I dont know,there are plenty of demure men in the united Methodist churches. I am sure you can find someone. ” he said. “Funy. You think anyone can put up with me?  ” she said.  “Your not so bad! “He said.

“You think i will find someone?  ” she asked. “Yes i defiantly do. You will be a great wife and mom. ” i told her. “How can you  be so sure?” she asked. “I just know. ” he said.

“I would like to find someone who is not afraid of me. Someone who can tame me perhaps. I dont know if he exist.  Do you want a quiet damure wonen?” she asked.

“No not necessarily.  I believe in male leaderahip but that does not meen my wife needs to be pasive or damure. I would never be arogent ebough to believe i have the answer.  I believe a man is the leader. He should consult his wife. I will always vailure your insight and you.i meen my future wife whoever she may be. ” she said. “Oh ok”she said 

“Do you want your husbend to be week and subservient?  ” i asked. “No i actualy dont. I figure he probably will be. I would not mind a strong male as my husband.  It would be difficult for both of us. I like leading,i wont say i dont. I would not mind being led. ” she told me.

“I see you as a strong leader. You seam to be a director an administrator but i dont find you intimidating.  “He said. 

“I am glad to hear that. You seam like a leader but not a dictator. You seam very competent. ” she said “thank you. ” he said. 

“I hope that my futute husbend will vaulue me. Be patient with me. I will try to honor him . i would not want to undermine him..” she said.”things take time.  There is always ajustment. ” he said. 

“I gues there is. “He said. “We can learn in that adjustment.  We can come closer though it. Well between you and your future husbend i meen. ” she said. 

“So do you have any pets?” she asked.”a dog. A beigle named molly.you?” i asked. “I have a cat. Teeny.  No jokes. ” she said. “Ok!” i said. 

“So are you planing to be with this church for a while?” she asked. “I love it hear. This is my first church.i have been able to mold it and develop it. I would hate to leave. I would like to be for a while . even my whole pastoral life. I dont know if that is what the lord has in mind.i am open to either. If he moves me. I am perfectly fine with that. So in your church it is up to your superiors?” he asked. “Yes. I like this church.they seam to like me. ” she said. 

” you could end up on the west coast?” he asked. “Possibly.  I think i will be hear for a while. Would you miss me if i was gone?” she asked.”without a doubt! ” i told her. 

“We dont have to worry about that for a while. ” she said. “Good! I am glad to hear it. ” he said. 

They played volly ball fot a while. She beet him in thr first game. He beeat her the next. Then she won. “So do you grab a bite to eat?” i asked. “Yes this one on me ok? “She asked. “I dont know!  ” he said. “We can both contribute to this relationship! I meen our friendship whatever this is. ” she said.  “I really dont mind. ” he said. 

” if i had planed this better, i would have made something. I make a meen chicken salid sandwitch. Next time can we do a picnic?” she asked. “That would be great.  There will be a next time?” i asked. “Do you want there to be?” she asked.  “I do.”i answered. 
 At dinner i asked her if she wanted kids. “I do. Mayby three. You?”she asked. “Four mayby. I am not sure. I defiantly want kids. “He said. “I think you would be a good farther. “He said.”im picturing you and your daughter. A mini you. You will make a really look momy.” he said. “I hope so. “She said.

“I have no doubtS.” i said. I pictured her and me hanging out with two kids. A boy and a girl. I liked that image. I looked at her and thought thats my future wife. She caught me. “What?” she said .i smiled.”nothing.  I got lost in thought for a minute. “I said.she smiled and said ok. 

I had steak and she had a vegiterian dish. We had desert.i paid and then we left the resturant. I then drove her to a spot outside of town where you can see most of hagervile. I parked. We got out. 

“This is my favorate spot in town.i figured i would save it for the end of your tour” he said.he took her hand and helped her up. “It is a beautiful spot. I can see why itis your favorite.  ” she said. 

She took it all in. She looked around the town. “I am realy glad you came today. Its funy i had no plans for the day.never expected my day to go like this. ” i said. 

“I like to shake things up. I am very unpredictable.  Your life is never going to be the same now that you have met me. ” she told me.

“I can see that. I am ok with that. I will adjust. ” i said. She laughed. “I gues mt life will change as well. I like these changes. ” she said. “We are in for an adventure.  Up,down and everything in between.  “He said. “Sounds good! ” she said. 

I felt like things had changed. Nothing was the same. I liked it.it was scary.  It was frightening.  It was promising as welll. I knew i had to deny my self.abandon my self intetest. That was hard. I could see things in me i did not like. I knew i would have to change. I knew i had to focus on changing myself.  I had to work on conforming myself to the image of christ. That woukd not be easy but necessary.  

“Well i should probably head back home. “She said. “I figured. I am so glad you came today.  ” i told her. “I am glad i did too. I am going to miss you. ” she said. “I will miss you too. ” he said. 

They drove back to the church. They got out. “Look will you call me when you get home. I will wory until i know your home.”i said.”i will!”she said. “Thanks.  Have a safe trip home. “I told her. 

I went back to my house. I did worry about her. Then i got the call.”hi hunnie i made ot back! “She said.”awsome. I am really glad. “I told her. “Look i wanted you to know that i had a good day. I know that becuase of sin there is no such thing as a perfect day but today was close.”she said. 

“I know what you meen. I agree entirety.  “I said. “I will talk to you soon. “She said.”you got it. Bye for now.”he said. 

To be continued.  

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Unlikly of couples part twoΒ 

While heading home 🏑 after a visit to the bible college i graduted, i had what would become a life changing experience.   I stoped πŸ”΄ at what i thought was a conservative Methodist church.  As it turns out it was a more mainline Methodist church. There was a female pastor.

I did not beleve that women πŸ‘© could be pastors. Nornaly i would have left right away.  I did not.  We ended up hanging out after wards. 

Something was stired up in me. I thought about her on the rest of my drive πŸš™ home 🏑.  Before i stoped at the church , my thoughts were on my college and the conference.  It had all changed. 

A week had gone by. I got flooded with questions about the conference at church. It was understandible.  I wanted to see her.she lived a bit if a distance.  I came up with an excuse to see her.

On my day off i decided to go on a road. Trip. I usualy stayed in town. I almost never left what was nicknamed by locals the hill valley region.  I was mostly a home body. I did enjoy traval. 

I saw on the website of her church that today was one of her office days.she would be there. I ordered two ice coffes. I remembered her cofee and her extra turbo schot. I hoped she would remember me. Perhaps all of this was in my head. 

She spent most of the day at the church. She had met with several parishioner.  She had done office works. She made and received phone πŸ“ž calls. 

I parked my car πŸš—  in the lot. I saw what i thought was her car πŸš—.  It had a united Methodist bumper sticker. I opened the car door. I walked 🚢 to the front door πŸšͺ.  I nervously went inside. 

I thought to myself that i must be out of my mind. This was not like me. I had been focused on the ministry. I really did not have time for anything else.  I really did not want to be involved in anything else.was i lonely?  Why am i latching on to a female minister from a slightly less then conservitive denomination. I saw a sign that gave directions to the office. 🏒 

I walked the coridor to the office 🏒.  I stood for a second near the door πŸšͺ.  I tried to catch my breath.  I could not beleve i was really hear.  I could not beleve i was really doing this. Had i totaly gone nuts? Perhaps i had. 

Becky had no idea i was hear. I caught my breath and then knocked on her door πŸšͺ.  “Come in. ” she said.she had been lost in thought and buisy at work. 

I nervously opened the door.  She had her head down but looked up. “Beware of fundamental Baptist baring gifts!  ” i said. I set her ice coffee down on the desk. ” its mocha ice cofee, two cream five sugars and a turbo schot of mocha.” i said. 

She was shocked 😱 to see me to say the least. “Craig? What are you doing hear? “She asked. “Today was my day off and i was goinh stir crazy.  I decided to go on a road trip. “I said.  

“You came all this way to see me?” she asked. “Yes i did. I probably did not think this though. I am ususly not this impulsive.  “I said.

“Thank you for the cofee. ” she said.”did i get it right?” i asked. “Its perfect!” she replied. “I am glad.😺 “i responded.

“Please sit down. ” she said. I sat down at a chair πŸ’Ί on the other side of the desk. “I am surprised to see you.  ” she said. “Is it a good surprise? 😲 ” i asked in a playfull tone. She smiled.πŸ˜ƒ ” very good!” she responded.  

“How have you been?” he aaked. “Good. Buisy but good.  I am a bit if a workaholic. ” she said. “I know how that is. One of my days off i was so bored but i built a utility building. ” i said. “No you did not!” she said. I took out my phone and showed you the pics. “Ok i no longer dont feel like a workaholic! ” she said.  They laughed.

“So have you been? ” she asked. “Good.  I went though car leg when i got home. I hung out in a field for a while.  Church is going good. ” he said. .”i am glad. ” she said. 

A few came in. He steped out. He checked out the church library.  She came and got him. “You are really hear. I tgought you were a figment of my imagination.” she said.  “I stil could be. “I said.

“No if you were my figment of my imigination you would be taller. “She said. ” whats with my height?” i asked. “Nothing!” she said. “Are you saying im short? Im five 11. Thats not bad!” i said.  “No your fine. Want to grab lunch? Its on me. ” she said. “Sure i dont know about that seccond part? “He said.

“Dont tell me your a chauvinist? ” she remarked. “I perfer to call it chivalry reverend becky.” he said. “My car or yours?” she asked. ” myne i feel strange about riding in a car that has a united Methodist bumper sticker. Even though i am away from the hill valey i could still see someone from hagger ville.  ” i said. 

They walked to the car πŸš—.  He opened the door for her. He got in. He had a collection of old hyms on cd.he turned it down.  “You only listened to hyms right?” she asked. “I do. You listen to k love mostly but probably like jaz and u2. ” i said.”you would be correct.  ” she said.  

At the restaurant we sat down to eat. ” are you a vegetarian?   I asked. “Yes i am. ” she asked. “Will you be moraly outraged if i order a steak?” he asked. She chuckled. ” no your fine.  I was prety sure that you were a carnivores.  ” she said. “Your not going to try to change me into a vegiterian?” i asked. “You figured out my diobolical scheme. I will have to engage in a mind wipe so you will forgot?” she said.”a what?” i asked. “Sory! If i came with a warning lable it would say”warning this person is known to make obscure. Science fiction references. ” she said.

” i thought star trek fans were 40 year old men who stil lived in there moms basement?” i remarked. “There are more of us then you know! Its from star trek five. Hey most men find female minister intimidating so it was either science fiction or becoming a cat lady. I do have a cat. His name is nelix!” she said. “Let me gues nelix is a charictor on star trek? ” i asked. “Yes that is correct. ” i said. 

“So are you woried being seen with a preachete? ” she asked. “I wasn’t.  Now that i think about it. I am a little.  ” i said.  ” i am sure you will be fine. You could always say i kidnapped you and forced you at pepper spray to come with me to lunch. ” she said. We both laughed and laughed at that.

She was so much fun. She was so silly! She had two sides to her. She had a work persona and an off work. She had a personal side. I had so much fun with her. We retroactively referred to this as date number two. 

She invited me to stay for there bible study. It was interesting. It was prety good.it was bible based. It was more earth based then i cared for. A bit sub surfaced. I stayed qiet. I decided to observe 

After the study she walked me to my πŸš—.  ” it was so good to see you.  I had a good day. “She told me. “I had. a good day too. Iam glad i came hear. ” i said. ” am i more relaxing then building a shack?” she asked. “Yes . much. “I said. “I am glad to hear that. If you perfeted contruction i might get a complex.  ” she said.they. laughed.

“Well have a safe trip back to hagervile!” she said. “Thanks  have a good night reverend beck. ” i said.”you realy need to stop calling me that pastor wallice. ” she said.  We laughed.

I got in the car and headed back.it had been a good day.  Certainly one i would never forgot. That day i thought i would never had a day like this again. This could never be topped but i would be wrong. 

To be continued. 

“Unlikely of couples”Β 

I was on my home from a conference at ambassador baptist college.  When on the road, i try to stop at a church . i stoped at a church   i been to before. I parked my car πŸš— at the parking lot. 

It had been a while sence i had been to the church. The church was free Methodist church. It had become part of the united methodist denomination. I did not know this.if i had i probably would not have come in to this church. 

 The church was far more liturgical then i was used to. There was a perade of shorts. The pastor wore a robe and sash. It was a lady. A young lady. I had come to a church with a female pastor. 

I gues i could have walked out but i did not. I was not sure why i did not. I did not end up staying though thr whole service. I was not sure if i should have or not but i did. 

The music was a combination of hyims with some ccm as well. The pastor was an avid listener of k love.she and her 🎡  music director introduced it alongside the old hymns. 

Her surnon was prety good. It was short. It was based on a text from the gospel. It was on jesus reading from isaiah in the temple. It was a good mesege. She focused more on earthly practical intetpretation of the text. 

I would have taken a different tract with it. I have as i have preached on this text. It was fairly good. After the service i planed on heading right out. I did not want to get back home. 

I got up to leave. I was sitting towards the back of the sanctuary.  I. Moved towards the door. People started to talk to me. I had spoken to many.  Then i got to the exit. 

She was young. She was in her twenties. “Hi welcome to christ united Methodist church. I am rebbcca Morrison but most people call me pastor becky.” she said. 

I tried not to cringe. I am a strong belever that pastors and deacons should be male. I believe that the bible teaches male leadership. I tried not to be disrespectfull. I was in her turf. I tried to be respectfull. 

“I am craig wallice. ” i said. “What brings you hear?”she asked. “I am heading back to hagervile.i was at a bible confrence . i wanted to attend church on my way home.” he said. 

“Are you united Methodist? ” she asked.  “Ah no! I am baptist. ” i said. “Are you one of those? ” she asked. I acted coy. I knew what she ment but i devided to feign igborence. “One of them?” i asked in a slightly sarcastic tone. 

She chuckled. “Your a fundy!” she said.  “I dont know if i would put it in that term but yea. I perfer independent fundamental baptist. “She said. 

“I am suprised you came hear.” i remarked. ” i used to come hear quite often. It been a while. The last time πŸ•™ i was hear, it was stil free Methodist. Pastor ottis was stil hear.” i told her. 

“Oh! Things have changed sense that.  Pastor ottis died a few years back. The church numbers dwindled.  The united Methodist took it over.  They united Methodist send pastors. In this case me!” she said. 

“I see. ” he said “so you probably would not have come had you known that it was united Methodist or had a female pastor?” she commented. 

I had to admit that was true. “No to be honest i probably would not have. ” he said. “Well do be offended but i am glad that you did not know. I am glad you came. ” he said. “It is good to meet you.” he said. 

“Did you always want to be a pastor?” she asked. “As long as i can remember. I wanted to be a race car driver too but that did not endure it as long as my desire to be in the ministry.  What about you?” i asked. 

“Not as long. I wanted to be some kind of professional.  I wanted to be a nurse or doctor. I went to school to be a social worker but decided to go into ministry. ” she said. 

“I see. ” i said. “You dont approve of me being a pastor?” she asked.”i do disagree with women being pastors or deacons. I believe men should be in positions of authority in a local church. I believe the bible clearly teaches male leadership.” he said.

“Well! I do not share that view. While example in sctipture are for males,there is no command that pastor and deacons be male. “She said.

“A pastor should be the husband of one wife. First timouthy 3:2. That is prety clear. Paul made it clear that he beleved that women shod be silent in the church. ” he said. 

“That is an example not a command.the women at the church in ephasis were uneducated for the most part. Many may have been new believers.  It became a free for all. Today women are educated.  Most people alow the pastor or teacher to teach. “She said. 

“Jesus is the same yesterday today and foever. God is a God of order. The plan has always been male leadership. This goes all the way back to adam. I dont see any reason to alter it. ” i said.

“So do you see my pastorship as illegitimate? ” she asked.”i am not hear to judge you. ” he said. ” a little bit of diplomacy?”she asked. “I am a guest hear?”i remarked they laughed. 

“We are a welcoming church. All are welcome even cantankerous baptist!” she said. “I sm not that cantankerous!  A little bit of a cammugin! “He said. They both laughed.  

“You know we are the only ones hear?” she said. “We are. We probably shod not be alone together. ” i said. We both quickly left the church building.  She locked up.

” do you go out for cofee?” she asked.”ok! Do you usually ask out new visitors?” i asked. She chuckled.”no i dont. ” she said. 

I followed her car.  My car did not have hardly any bumper sticker. I only had one. It was an i love πŸ’˜ my beigle. She had several including one for the united Methodist church. 

We went in. I paid for both of ours.she had a mocha swirl ice cofee with a turbo schot of mocha. I just had mocha. “You did not have to pay for myine. I go a little nuts. Thank you i apreciate it.” she said.  “No problem. ” i said.

“So. Tell me about yourself pastor becky!”i said. “Well i grew up in Wisconsin.  I grew up independent fundimental baptist. I kinda rebelled and planed on becoming a social worker. I stil beleved. I decided on less rigid denomination.  The pastor encouraged me to become a minister. I transfered my credets. Hear i am.”she said. 

“What do your parents think?” i asked.  “They are glad that i returned to the faith. We have become close despite our doctrinal differences. They stil hope i will get over this. Get it out of my system. ” she said. 

“I see.is this a phase you will get out of?” he asked. “You never know !”she said. I laughed. 

“So what about you? ” she asked. “I was born in south carolina. We moved to a church in indiana. Then he started a church in anderson. I went to ambasador and then worked at my dads church then started the one i am at now ” i told her. 

“Is your church new blood or disafected people from orther churches?” she asked. “We have a lot of new converts. We have some who were disillusioned at other churches.  My passion is to reach the loss and to deciple new belevers who will go out and impact there community.  I am not trying to sheep steal but it does happen. ” i said. 

I could not believe i was pouring my heart πŸ’™ out to a complete stranger.this was not like me at all.i was pouring my heart πŸ’™ out to a female united Methodist minister. What was going on? Was i totally out of my mind? 

“I will have to visit your church some time!”she said.  “Definently. I would love πŸ’˜ that. ” i said. I had no idea if she ment it or not. 

I felt like she was an old friend. I felt like i have known her for years. I lost all track of time. 

“Wil you admit you know me?”she asked.  “I think i will. I am not totaly sure. ” i said. She chuckled. 

“I realy should be heading back. ” he said. “Ok. You probably should.it was good to meet you. ” she said.”it was good to meet you pastor Becky! “I said.

“You really dont have to call me pastor becky. Becky fine.”she said “i like calling you pastor becky. ” i said. “I noticed. ” she said.

I walked her out to her car. “Have a safe trip home craig. ” she told him.”thanks. Have a great night. ” i told her. 

We got in our car and went out seperate ways. It was funy i had a great time at the confrence. I ebjoyed being at my colege. What i remember the most from that trip was attending that church.

Becky and i later decided that was out first date. Really it was. We just did not know it.i think i lnow that Becky would one day become my wife. 

End of part one. 

Aranged mariege part fourΒ 

James and jeny had just been maried. Unlike most wedings they had never met prior to the nuptials.they were part of a mariege aranged by both set of parents. What they did not know was that one was a independent fundamental Baptist minister, the other a united Methodist minister. 

We pick up the story today on there first day as a maried couple. They have just woken up and are eating a light breakfast and cofee. 

“Have you been to this church before?”she asked. “Many times. I went there as a kid on vacation. I usually go hear at least once a year. I realy like these cabins and camp sight. I like this area. ” he said. 

“Is the church strict and seperated. Hymns, king james,dreses etc.” she remarked. “Yes.  All of that. ” he answered. 

“Well at least i know what i am getting into. I know something to expect i guess. “She remarked.  

“It is a good church. They are very friendly. It may be different then you are used to. ” he said. “I am sure i will be fine.  “She told him.

After eating mufins and drinking coFe,they decided to  get ready. They used the facility shower facilites. They then got dressed and got ready to leave. 

She wore a purple shirt and black skirt. She braided her hair into a pony tail. She wore sandles. He had a dress shirt and black pants. He saw her and smilled. 

“You look realy nice. ” he said. “Thank you. You look nice yourself.” she said. He hesitated at first to display physical contact. Then he realized that he is maried and he was free to show physical contact. He went over and hugged her. She hugged him back. 

They got there bibles. He had a king james version.  She had an revised standered version. They held hands as they went to the car. The car started. The car drove off and. Headed to the church. 

This was so sureel. She felt like she woke up in an alternate universe.  She woke up on her weading day beleving that she was marying a fellow Methodist minister.  The truth was she had maried an old fashioned independent fundamental Baptist pastor. She was shocked by that. She never expected him to be like that.  She had a major adjustment now. It was quite a shock to her syistom.she was trying to short all this out. She had no idea how to do this. 

James had no idea what to do. He feared that she would never raly be his wife. Her heart would never fully be in this.  He feared that she would his wife in name only. He feared that she would be a potempkin wife in a potempkin marriage.  

They were both qiet in the car. He became woried. His heart started to sink.he took out his hand and took hers. She gave to him. They smiled. The car arived. 

The church was a fairly  smal building. The car parked in the parking lot. The two got out. They held hands and they walked towards the church. 

They walked towards the door. They saw a door greater.  He recognized him. “Hi Arnold.  “James said.”james hi. Welcome back. It is good to see you. “Arnold said. 

Arnold was a man in his fithties. He had attended this church sence he was in his teens. He was quite a ficture in the church. He was a grandfather and was a piller of the church. 

“This is my wife jenny. ” he said . “your maried now. Congratulations. ” arnold said. He explaned that they had just got maried.  Arnold was very excited.

James did not know everyone but knew almost everyone. They engaged in convetsation with verious attenders in the church. They engaged in mingling and then sat down. 

The pastor came over. “Pastor foster.  It is good to see you. “Pastor ted gail said. “You too pastor gail.”he said.he shock the hand of the older pastor. “This is my wife jenny. We just got maried yesterday. “He told him.

“It is good to meat you jeny. I hope you enjoy our church.”he said. The church was very old fashioned. The church had a piano and an organ.  The church only played the old fashion hymns.  Everyone dresed conservatively. Man wore suit and ties. The ladies wore dreses or skirt.

Jeny pastored a litugical church. The service was filled with rutuel. She wore a robe with a sash. She preached from a lexionary. The service folowed a format observed every week. There was a new and old testiment reading.the whole service was planed carefully. This servive had a format but it was different. 

She felt a bit out of place. She tried to make the best of it. She was not sure what to make of all this. In a Methodist service, there was reading from the gospels then a message was given inspired by the text. Many i.f.b used topical format. Usualy there was a primary text. It would branch off to other paseges.

Of course the messeage was om abandoning the fundimentles of the faith. That included abandoning the king james bible,the hyims,key doctrines etc. She tried to be oppen minded. She tried to ababdon any biases she might have.

He wounded how she took all of this. Was she offended.  Would she mad at him for bringing her hear.would it create a gistalt where he had his world,  she had his and never shal the train meat. During the service he squuzed her hand. Sh squuzed it back.

After the service they went back to the cabin. Neither one said said much.  They were not sure what to say. “I had no idea that that was he would preach on. I did not pay him to preach that. “He said.”i know that. I was not offended. “She said. “Ok. I realy want to ease you into all this. I am sure that you will want to introduce me to united methodism. “He said. 

“I know.  I am ok. “She said. “You sure? If you were offended. I would like to know. I want to understand you . “he said. “I appreciate that. I really am ok. ” she said. “Look. Your feelings are importent to me. I want you to feel free to tell me anything.  ” he said.  “Thank you i really do appreciate that. “She said.

They drove to the cabin. Each cabin had a gril area. He cooked burgers.  She liked watching him grill. He took off his suit coat and tie.they eat. 

After diner they took a nap. He set the alarm. They both laid down.  He put his arm around her. She laid on his head. ” jeny ,the last thing i want is a loveless mariege. I am strict. I can be harsh. I want you and i to be partners.  I want us to work together.  I want to be kind. I want you to feel like you are free to be totaly oppen with me. I want to be your best friend. I want you to be my best friend.  ” he told her. 

“I am afraid of you a bit!”she admitted. “Me? I am very easy going.  “He said. “You remind me of the acedrmic deen at seminary.  “She said.”please tell me he had a full head of hair. I have never been compared to a deen before. It is better then a dril sergent. I was not afraid of the deen of men at my college.  I am strict on holiness,conduct . i considered it liberal to listen to the gathers or to read the new king James.  In how i act i dont think i am strict. I am not grumpy or stern. ” he said.

“You see yourself as head of the house hold. Do you ser yourself as outranking me?”she asked. “I dont see myaelf as outranking you. I do have leadership.  I do believe in partshership. People at my church do not see me as authoritarian. I hope that the way i run the church is how i lead the family. I hope i can earn your trust. That is importent to me. I hope there will come a time where your ur not afraid of me or see me like the academic deen.”he said.

“Thats bug you a little? “She asked. “Only becuase i am known by my congregation as easy going. I would hate for my wife to feel that she has limited acess to me. My parents are a unit. They think differently but they are one flesh.  I want that for us. I really do.” he said. As he talked he played with her hair. 

“So do you make all the decisons or do i get consulted?” she asked. “I believe the husband gets the final authority. He holds leadership of the family. Having said that i want you to feel you can talk to me about anything.  I want you to have acess to me. I want you to be part of the decison process.  I know we wont agree. I dont want a my way or the highway. My flesh wants that. I know its best. The last thing i want is for you to be misierible. I want you to be happy. ” he said.

“Well i like getting my own way. I like being in charge. I know that me getting my own way is not best. I just want to be involved in your deliberations.  I want to know your thought process.  I want to be in the loop. “She said. 

“I can do that. I am not a dictator. I am forcefull. I am opinionated.  I know that i am not infalible. As a pastor i keep in mind that i am an under shepard. I answer to christ. I am a stuward. I am not the guy. I have to keep that in mind and i try to. ” he said. 

She wanted to trust him. She wanted to embrace him. It was  hard for her to trust him. She wanted to but she was a sceptical person. She was sometimes cynical. She found it hard to trust. Could she lower her defences. Could she let her shields down and let him in. Was he realy the man he claimed to be. 

They got up. They had a light snack before church. They went to the same church they had the night before. She was not used to the church but she liked it.

After church they went to the car. “Do you want to go out for ice cream?” he asked. ” yea. Sounds good. “She answered.  They went to the ice cream store. She got a chocolate sundae. She sat down.he brought the ice cream. 

“What is that?” she asked. “It is my ice cream. ” he said. “It looks like it is multiple flavors with every toping that exist. Do they have any topings left?” he asked. ” yes they do. I dont do this very often . This is my honeymoon,  why not go big. “He said. She laughed.” your not going to be able to eat again for a mounth. ” she told him. 

He chuckled. “Want to try a taste?” he asked. “I am almost afraid to” she said. She took her spoon and diped in. She tasted it.” its good but it is a bit of an overload. ” she told him. He laughed. 

They held hands as they went to the car. He looked at her. She saw him looking at her. She saw the way he looked at him. 

They went home and schot around a ball. Then they went inside. “You know i am a little afraid of you. ” he renarked. “Realy?” she asked. ” you are really smart. You graduated third in your class. You are way snarter then me. You are very accomplished.  You are a bit intimidating. You have a towerring presence. ” he remarked. She chuckled.  

“I get that alot! ” she said. They both laughed. He hugged her. “This is when you say your not that scary. ” he said.  “I am prety imtimidating!” she said. He kissed her. “I gues i kinda like to be intimidating. I dont want you to be afraid of me. I dont want that at all. ” she told him. “Ok. “He said. 

They watched star trek on her laptop.  They cudled as they watched.  She loved it. He did not quite get it. Then they fell asleep.  It was quite a first ful day of mariege. 

End of part four.