I was on my home from a conference at ambassador baptist college. When on the road, i try to stop at a church . i stoped at a church i been to before. I parked my car 🚗 at the parking lot.
It had been a while sence i had been to the church. The church was free Methodist church. It had become part of the united methodist denomination. I did not know this.if i had i probably would not have come in to this church.
The church was far more liturgical then i was used to. There was a perade of shorts. The pastor wore a robe and sash. It was a lady. A young lady. I had come to a church with a female pastor.
I gues i could have walked out but i did not. I was not sure why i did not. I did not end up staying though thr whole service. I was not sure if i should have or not but i did.
The music was a combination of hyims with some ccm as well. The pastor was an avid listener of k love.she and her 🎵 music director introduced it alongside the old hymns.
Her surnon was prety good. It was short. It was based on a text from the gospel. It was on jesus reading from isaiah in the temple. It was a good mesege. She focused more on earthly practical intetpretation of the text.
I would have taken a different tract with it. I have as i have preached on this text. It was fairly good. After the service i planed on heading right out. I did not want to get back home.
I got up to leave. I was sitting towards the back of the sanctuary. I. Moved towards the door. People started to talk to me. I had spoken to many. Then i got to the exit.
She was young. She was in her twenties. “Hi welcome to christ united Methodist church. I am rebbcca Morrison but most people call me pastor becky.” she said.
I tried not to cringe. I am a strong belever that pastors and deacons should be male. I believe that the bible teaches male leadership. I tried not to be disrespectfull. I was in her turf. I tried to be respectfull.
“I am craig wallice. ” i said. “What brings you hear?”she asked. “I am heading back to hagervile.i was at a bible confrence . i wanted to attend church on my way home.” he said.
“Are you united Methodist? ” she asked. “Ah no! I am baptist. ” i said. “Are you one of those? ” she asked. I acted coy. I knew what she ment but i devided to feign igborence. “One of them?” i asked in a slightly sarcastic tone.
She chuckled. “Your a fundy!” she said. “I dont know if i would put it in that term but yea. I perfer independent fundamental baptist. “She said.
“I am suprised you came hear.” i remarked. ” i used to come hear quite often. It been a while. The last time 🕙 i was hear, it was stil free Methodist. Pastor ottis was stil hear.” i told her.
“Oh! Things have changed sense that. Pastor ottis died a few years back. The church numbers dwindled. The united Methodist took it over. They united Methodist send pastors. In this case me!” she said.
“I see. ” he said “so you probably would not have come had you known that it was united Methodist or had a female pastor?” she commented.
I had to admit that was true. “No to be honest i probably would not have. ” he said. “Well do be offended but i am glad that you did not know. I am glad you came. ” he said. “It is good to meet you.” he said.
“Did you always want to be a pastor?” she asked. “As long as i can remember. I wanted to be a race car driver too but that did not endure it as long as my desire to be in the ministry. What about you?” i asked.
“Not as long. I wanted to be some kind of professional. I wanted to be a nurse or doctor. I went to school to be a social worker but decided to go into ministry. ” she said.
“I see. ” i said. “You dont approve of me being a pastor?” she asked.”i do disagree with women being pastors or deacons. I believe men should be in positions of authority in a local church. I believe the bible clearly teaches male leadership.” he said.
“Well! I do not share that view. While example in sctipture are for males,there is no command that pastor and deacons be male. “She said.
“A pastor should be the husband of one wife. First timouthy 3:2. That is prety clear. Paul made it clear that he beleved that women shod be silent in the church. ” he said.
“That is an example not a command.the women at the church in ephasis were uneducated for the most part. Many may have been new believers. It became a free for all. Today women are educated. Most people alow the pastor or teacher to teach. “She said.
“Jesus is the same yesterday today and foever. God is a God of order. The plan has always been male leadership. This goes all the way back to adam. I dont see any reason to alter it. ” i said.
“So do you see my pastorship as illegitimate? ” she asked.”i am not hear to judge you. ” he said. ” a little bit of diplomacy?”she asked. “I am a guest hear?”i remarked they laughed.
“We are a welcoming church. All are welcome even cantankerous baptist!” she said. “I sm not that cantankerous! A little bit of a cammugin! “He said. They both laughed.
“You know we are the only ones hear?” she said. “We are. We probably shod not be alone together. ” i said. We both quickly left the church building. She locked up.
” do you go out for cofee?” she asked.”ok! Do you usually ask out new visitors?” i asked. She chuckled.”no i dont. ” she said.
I followed her car. My car did not have hardly any bumper sticker. I only had one. It was an i love 💘 my beigle. She had several including one for the united Methodist church.
We went in. I paid for both of ours.she had a mocha swirl ice cofee with a turbo schot of mocha. I just had mocha. “You did not have to pay for myine. I go a little nuts. Thank you i apreciate it.” she said. “No problem. ” i said.
“So. Tell me about yourself pastor becky!”i said. “Well i grew up in Wisconsin. I grew up independent fundimental baptist. I kinda rebelled and planed on becoming a social worker. I stil beleved. I decided on less rigid denomination. The pastor encouraged me to become a minister. I transfered my credets. Hear i am.”she said.
“What do your parents think?” i asked. “They are glad that i returned to the faith. We have become close despite our doctrinal differences. They stil hope i will get over this. Get it out of my system. ” she said.
“I see.is this a phase you will get out of?” he asked. “You never know !”she said. I laughed.
“So what about you? ” she asked. “I was born in south carolina. We moved to a church in indiana. Then he started a church in anderson. I went to ambasador and then worked at my dads church then started the one i am at now ” i told her.
“Is your church new blood or disafected people from orther churches?” she asked. “We have a lot of new converts. We have some who were disillusioned at other churches. My passion is to reach the loss and to deciple new belevers who will go out and impact there community. I am not trying to sheep steal but it does happen. ” i said.
I could not believe i was pouring my heart 💙 out to a complete stranger.this was not like me at all.i was pouring my heart 💙 out to a female united Methodist minister. What was going on? Was i totally out of my mind?
“I will have to visit your church some time!”she said. “Definently. I would love 💘 that. ” i said. I had no idea if she ment it or not.
I felt like she was an old friend. I felt like i have known her for years. I lost all track of time.
“Wil you admit you know me?”she asked. “I think i will. I am not totaly sure. ” i said. She chuckled.
“I realy should be heading back. ” he said. “Ok. You probably should.it was good to meet you. ” she said.”it was good to meet you pastor Becky! “I said.
“You really dont have to call me pastor becky. Becky fine.”she said “i like calling you pastor becky. ” i said. “I noticed. ” she said.
I walked her out to her car. “Have a safe trip home craig. ” she told him.”thanks. Have a great night. ” i told her.
We got in our car and went out seperate ways. It was funy i had a great time at the confrence. I ebjoyed being at my colege. What i remember the most from that trip was attending that church.
Becky and i later decided that was out first date. Really it was. We just did not know it.i think i lnow that Becky would one day become my wife.
End of part one.