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Unlikly couples part six 

Pastor becky was a united Methodist minister. She grew up in. A baptist circle.she abadoned Christianity but came back to it. Instead of going to fundimental baptist, she went to the evengelical mainline prostinent . she found something endearing about him. She found the more times she ran into him, the more she really liked him. 

She did not want to define there relationship, at least not this early on.so when he mentioned it, it threw her for a loop.  She panicked. 

For a while,she shut down.she decided she wanted a break. She needed time to catch her breath. He gave her a while. He decided to stop by on the way to see her. 

At first she did not want him to come by. He had this ability to melt her heart. She knew how she felt about him.  

He had a good weekend.  He enjoyed spending time at his old church. He enjoyed spending time with his family. He felt like he got to relive his childhood.  He was glad to have some time to recharge his bateries. 

He hoped she would call.  She did not.he wanted to call her. He knew he had to give her space. She needed time.  He missed her. He could not deny that. 

That sunday becky decided to preach at her church. Then she headed for craig’s family church. She was nervous.she considered heading back but she did not. She did want to see him. 

She arived in the early afternoon.  It was before they had a dinner. She saw pictures of the church. Sadie saw her. ” hi i did not know you were coming?” she said.” i did not know myself. ” she admited. 

“Does craig know your hear?”she asked. “No not yet. It was kinda on impulse i gues. So is this craig as a kid?”becky asked her. “Thats him. He was six when the church was started. I was a baby then. ” sadie said.

“He looks like he had a lot of energy back then?”becky asked. ” he did. Thats what i have heard. He was not hyper. He just had a lot of energy. ” sadie said. “Have you two always been close?” she asked.  “Prety much yea. I think the age difference was an obstacle but yea we have been prety close.  ” sadie said. 

” i like this pictute. ” becky said. “That was the five year anniversary.  He was 11. ” sadie said. 

During the diner the pastor prayed. Everyone started to go though the line. He saw her. “Beck what are you doing hear?” craig asked. ” i wanted to be hear. I know this is importent to you. Plus i think Its my turn to come see you. ” she said. ” i am not counting.  I am glad to see you. I missed you. ” he said.

“I missed you too.” he said. They sat down. They sat next to his parrents. “Mom and dad. I would like to meet becky granger. This is my parents pastor greg and jeen wallice. ” he said ” it is good to meet you. ” becky said. “It is good to meet you.” pastor wallice said. 

“I enjoyed seing early picture of the church.  ” Becky said. “Alot of these pictures were colecting dust. It was fun looking though old pictures. It brought back a lot of memories.  ” mrs wallice said. 

“So do you go to craig’s church?” his dad asked. ” no i go to a different church.” she said. She realy hoped they did not ask follow up questiones. 

During the afternoon,  he talked to his mom.” so is becky your girlfriend?”his mom asked. “We have not defined it yet. I hope so someday. I really like her. ” he said. “Your dad and i were prety sure you did. “She said. “I had no idea she was coming. It was quite a suprise” he said. 

They had a felowship time in the afternoon.  At night there was a service. After he and becky sat on the steps of his parents house. “I am so glad your hear bec. “He said. “I am glad i came. ” she said.

” i am sory i shut down. I just needed time. ” she said. ” i know.  I wanted to give you that time. It was hard but i knew you needed some space.  ” he said. “I did.  I like how you gave me space but also made it clear you were available.  Thank you. ” she said. 

“I am not trying to change you. I am not. Trying to turn you into a baptist or turn you into me. I love spending time with you.  I love being with you. I feel like i can be me around you. That is my only motive for being with me. ” he said. 

“I am beginning to realize that. I gues one of us will probably have to give up our dram for the other person.  I am not sure we can both pastor abd be maried. Im assuming you want to mary me!” she said. 

“I do. Are you open to marying me bec?” he asked. “Yes i am open to it.” she answered. He took her hand.”we have some hard decisions to make.  Lets talk about it. Lets work on her together. We can figure it out togerher. We dont have to solve everything now. I know i have been waiting for you.  There has never been anyone else not really. I have been wating a long time for you. “He told her. 

“I have dated before. There was a few that i thought was serious. Not like this. I got to warn you i going to drive you completly batty?” she said.

“I might do the same with you. I orginize my Sox draw several times until it is perfect. ” he said. ” that might drive me batty. ” she said. He chuckled.  

“Do you realy think this could work?” she asked. He squeezed her hand.”i think love is an emotion but i also think it is a choice.  It is a one tine choice folowed up by little chioces. Can you imagine spending the rest of your life with me? Would you be happy about it?”he asked. 

She had a good imagination. She was good at visulizing things. She thought about there life together.  It caused her to smile. “Yea i think i would be happy about it. ” she said.

“I think your an amazing person bec.i really do. ” he said. “I did not think i was your type. ” she said. “So what is my type?” he asked in a playfull tone.

“Damure, submisive no independent thought. Shy. Barefoot and  pregnent. Someone who cooks and cleen. “She said. 

“Really?  No that is not my type. I am steriotypical typical independent baptist but i am not at the same time. Most fundamental baptist dont fit the steriotype. The steriotype is more hyperbole then reality. That is my type. ” he said 

“Well then pastor wallice what is your type?” she asked in a playful tone. “I dont want a clone of myself or an echo. I value intelligence.  I vailure wisdom.  I value different perspectives.  I have never been afraid to have my views chalenged. I dont believe i am right on everything’. I dont want to be arrogant.  I am sure i can be. I want someone who is smart,who can provide counsel.  I dont want damure.  I want someone who is submisive in the fact of not working against. Someone who is on the same team. Someone who may have strong opinions but is wiling to trust me. Someone who is wiling to give me the final authority.  I have never believed i have all the answers. I would hope to be able to earn your trust. As to barefoot you barly wear shoes for more then five minutes.  ” he said.

She laughed.  “True.  Trust is hard for me. I like being in charge of me. I know i am not realy in control. I know that as a human i am not realy in control.  As a Christian i am definently not in control.  I do want to control everything.  I know i cant but i would like to. To yield by choice.that does not come easily to me. I dont want a power strugle. It might me be easier for me to mary a united mathodist man who is damure himself.  ” she said.

“You would get bored eventually.  It might take time years.  You would tire of it. As would i with the wife you discribe. Mayby oposites do attract.  You and i do have similarities.  We are not as different as it apears. I think we may have more in comon then we believe.  ” he told her. 

“You could be right. This is so scary. If this does not work. We could realy hurt eachother. We could mess each other up. The damage could be irreparable.  I am afraid. I want this. I want you and i. Perhaps some things are impossible.  Some mountons cant be climbed. ” she said. 

“You could be right. There are limits. Some things aren’t ment to be. Some things are.  I dont believe this is impossible.  ” he told her. 

“I was miserable. This break did not work out. I was mad at first when you came. I was glad to see you. “She admited.

“Can we be a couple?  Can we date court whatever title you want to give it?” he asked.  “Ok. I will be your girlfriend. ” she said. “Awsome!” he said.

“By the way that eliphent reallt was riduculous. It take up half my living room. ” she said. “Yea it was an impulse gift. I probably should have put more thought in it. ” he said.”i loved it. I am going to tease about it incessantly but i loved it. Becky wallice does have a nice ring to it “she said.  “You meen reverend becky granger wallice? ” he asked.  “Funy!” she said.

She drove back to her house. They decided that he would stop by on his way to drop his sister off. This was a turning point for them. She called him when she got home. 

To be continued.  

 

Unlikly couples part five

The next day,craig called becky.  She did not answer. He left a vioce mail.”hi beck its Craig.  Look i just wanted to say hi. Call me when you can. “He said.

He was sad that she did not answer. Mayby she was buisy. He wanted to talk to her.  He decided to wait and try later. She did not call back . he tried to call her again. He could not get a hold of her. 

He decided to give her some space. He waited. On Tuesday she called him.he ran for the phone. ” hi hunnie!”he said. ” hi Craig.  Look i am sorry i have been distent for the last few days. I want to take a break for a while.  “Becky told him. 

“Oh ok!  If that is  what you want. For how long?” he asked. “Im not sure. I don’t know if this is a good idea. You and i. We are just too different. I am just not  sure we can make it work. I think we need to take a step back and give this some thought.  “She said. 

“Oh ok. If thats what you feel is best. Bec i really care about you. I want to make this work. “Craig said. “Your a sweet guy. I just dont know. I will let you go. “She said. “Ok. ” he answered. 

He said his goodbye.  He was sad to hear that. He wanted to continue this relationship.  He wished he had not said anything.  He hardly new how to break this stand still. He did not want it to end this way. 

He tried to focus on the church.  He tried to stick to bussiness. It was not easy. He still wanted this relationship. He hoped that this was not really the end. 

He checked her face book page. Her post were church ot community events. Nothing too much. She shared some post from united methodist church and music page. He hated staying away.  

He wrote her a note. One he never intended to send. He told her how he missed her. When they were maried she found it. It was one of her favorate notes from him. 

It was two weeks sence he last spoke to her. He hoped he would have been ok but he was not. He stil missed her. Nothing has changed. He knew that they had a lot of hurdles. Being apart was not the answer. Trying to ignore how they felt was not working. He did not know what else to do. 

He wanted to call her. He felt he should not. He felt he should honor her wishess. He did need to give her some space.  Even though it was hard.  He used the time to get closer to the lord. He tried to prepare his heart. He started to see this as an oportunity to get closer to God.  

He had been invited to attend the 20th anniversary of his the church his farther founded. He decided to go. This was a huge development for the church that inspired him. This started his road to ministry. He was excited to celebrate it.  

He agreed to pic up his sister sadie who lived in between hagervile and his parents in the town of morrison. Stoping to pic up sadie in dawson would justify pasing though where reverend becky lived. He could say he was just pasing though. 

He found a large stuffed eliphent. He decided to get it for becky. He would give it to it. It was huge and barly fit in the car. He hoped that she would accept it. Not only for the syimbolism but because it took so much space. If she did not accept it. Perhaps he coukd give it to his baby sister and youngest brother. 

He arived at sadie’s apartment. She saw the large animal. “What is that?” she asked. “I want to make a stop on our way. It is for a friend.  ” he said. “Ok. Where are we stoping?” she asked. “Foster. ” he said. “Who do you know in foster?” she asked.  

They drove to Becky’s house. Becky lived in the parsonage.  She was the first pastor to do in quite a while. The parsonage was rented out to a family. They decided to move just before she was called to pastor.  She decided to move in sense she was not from the area. It worked out for her. 

He saw her car so she figured that she was home. He parked the car. Sadie was confused by all this. “You have a friend who is united Methodist? “She asked.   “Yea. She is really nice!” he said. “She?” sadie asked. They got out of the car. He had trouble moving the eliphent.  

Becky had a low key morning. She was easing into the morning.  She read from the bible and drank cofee and had toast. She was spending tine at her house. Later she planed to go to her church office. She wore a black t shirt abd jeens and was barefoot.  Usualy she wore skirts. She figured that she would change before she went to the office.  She saw the car in her drivway. She recognized the car. She did not recognize the young women with him. Why was he hear? 

She wanted to run away. She decided to talk to him. She sliped on flip flops and went out to see him. “Hi beck. Look i know that you and i are on a break. I am heading to see my parents and i wanted to say hi. I have something for you? ” he told her. 

She looked the stuffed animal over. “An eliphent really?” she said . she rolled her eyes as she said it. “I thought it was ironic. ” he said. ” oh!” she said. 

“This is my sister sadie. Sadie this is becky granger. ” he said. “It is good to meet you?” sadie said. “It is good to meet you. ” becky said. “Sade can beck and i have a few minutes? ” he asked. ” sure! ” she said.

Becky and craig walked around the propery. ” look i know you wanted me to stay away for a while. I wont stay long. I am sory i brought up the whole dating thing. I should have known that it was not thr right time to bring it up. I got inpatcent. I know there are a thousands obsticles to our relationship.  There are probaly hurdles we have not even considered. We are different in so many ways. We have almost nothing in common. ” he said. 

“You know you are not doing a good job selling this?” she asked. ” i know. This is not going to be easy. This might be the hardest thing we have ever done or will do. There are a thousand reason why we should not do this. Why we just walk away. I can only think of one reason why we should persure this. ” he said. 

” whats that? ” she asked.  ” its Gods will. Who the lord has joined together,  let no man tear asunder. I believe that. I dont totaly understand it. You said you enjoyed being with me. I love being with you.  When i am i dont want to be anywhere else. I know you feel the same way.  It was not love at first sight. That night at the cofee shop i thought this is her,this is my wife. I dont have all the answers.  I dont have any answers. I know your afraid to get close to me. I understand why. I have a lot of love to give. Thats what i came to say. Call me if you want to. ” he told her. 

He started to walk away. “Craig! Wait!” she said. He stopped. She hugged him. He held on to her. “I mised you. I will call you later ok?” she said. “Ok!” ” he said smiling. 

She walked him to his car. “It was good to meet you sadie. We will have to talk sometime. ” shw said. “I would like that. ” she said. They said there goodbyes.  They drove off.

 “You have some explaning to do.  ” his sister said.  ” i know. We met while i was on my way home from visiting my college. I happened to stop there. I did not know that it was a united Methodist. She came up to say hi. A couple houers later…” he said.  She laughed. “We went to a cofe shop. A week later i came to visit her. A week after that she came to see me. We did not define our relationship.  We just kept seing eachother. It was going great until i opened my big mouth. I asked what this was. I kind of wrecked every thing. ” he said. 

“Well ,you could have not have known that will be the result. You were understandibly curious.  Who would not be?” sadie said. “You know me i am inpatient.  What if i did irreparable damage?”he asked. ” she feels the same as you do. I can tell. She is just afraid. “She said.  

“What is she afraid off?”he asked. “You and her not working out. She probably thinks one of you will give up there dream. She assumes it will be her. I think there is more. There are a lot of things that could go wrong.i can tell she cares for you deeply.  She does want this.  I am sure of that. “She told him.

“What do i do?”he asked. “The thing your not good at. Being patient.  “She said. “I knew that was coming. Ok. “He said. “I think you two can work all this out. I realy do. I should have known you would find someone evenually. Mayby your not called to singleness!”she said. “Did you think you were?”she asked. “No but i was begining to wounder. “He said. She laughed. 

“I like her. “Sadie asked. “How am i going to sell her to mom and dad?”he asked. “You could tell them she is a catholic and then when they calm down tell them the truth ” she said. “I dont think that will help. ” he said. She chuckled. “Probably not. ” she said. 

“It certainly does complicate things. ” he said. “It does . the most worthwhile things usually are. ” she said. 

End of part five. 

Next up becca and craig sit down for a heart to heart talk during his dads church’s anniversary. 

This is now part three 

Sense becca and jim broke up, she kept buisy runing her dad’s bookstore.she decided that she wanted to move closer to jim and hus church. She decided she wanted to marry him. She lived by proverbs 31. She did some reserch. The owner of a christian bookstore near jim wanted to divest his ownership in the store. She contact him.

She wore a gray shirt,green skirt and flip flops. She arived at the store. She walked in. “Bill! “She said. “You must be becca. ” he said. “Yes. Its good to meet you.. ” she said. 

 “As i said on the phone, i have run this store for 25 years. My son and his family live in Florida.  They have been beging me to move closer to them. I do not want to abandon the store.  I would like to divest but stay part owner. ” bill said. 

He have her a tour. “I have a whole section of bible. While to many christian book store, bibles are an afterthought but not hear. I separate bibles from bible resources.  I looked at your stores website and saw that you only carry king james.we do cary other versons. There is a lot of interest in king james in this area. I dont know if you know pastor jim at faith church but he is a big king James guy. ” bill said. “I know him. I see you have a lot of king james. I like that. ” she replied. 
  “This is our resource section. I screen the books i sell.  I avoid any books that promote text critism,higher or lower. My principle is not to sell anything that questions the veracity of the word of God. ” bill said. “That definitely came though on your website. I appreciate that. ” she said. 

“I avoid reform writers especialy in commentaries.  I do have reform writers in other section.  ” bill said.

They came to the music section. “This could be a sticking point. I see your book store only sell sacred music.  I do sell ccm. I listen to k love and have it playing in the store.  “He said.

“I saw that you sold ccm albums.  I dont to radically change your store. I understand that it has a different culture from faithful bookstore.  I dont intend to turn it to ours.”he said. 

Then they went to his office. “So why the intetest in buying into my store?”bill asked.” well i want to move hear. I would like to be established hear. I see the bookstore as a ministry. I would like to have a ministry hear. ” she said. 

“What bring this desire to move hear?” bill asked. “I would like to be closer to my fiancée.  “She answered.  Jim had no idea that she was hear in town. She ans jim had kept in touch via text and facebook sense her visit.she did not want him to know she was coming . she wanted to surprise him. 

He was in his office when he got a text from her. “Where ate you?” she asked. He texted her back. “In my study at the church. ” he answered. He got another text.  “Look out your window. ” it said. He was confused. He did as she requested. He saw her car. 

He ran out and she hugged her. “What are you doing hear?” jim asked.”i wanted to surprise you. ” becca answered.  “Im definitely surprised.  “Jim replied. She smiled. “A good kind of suprise?” she asked. “Yes. Very good. ” he said.

“I am really glad to see you. ” he told her. He had a big smile on his face when he told her that.  ” want to grab a bite to eat on me?” she asked. “Yes to the first part. As to the seccond i got it. ” he said. “O-k!” she said.

They went to a resturant. “Look jim, i was opposed to breaking off the engagement back then. You needed to sort all this out. You were a bit unstable. You are stable now. You are firmly established in what you believe.  You know who you are. I have changed as well. I have done some maturing at least i believe. I have. Sence the last time i spoke to you i have been praying and reeding scripture and i want to resume our engagement.  I want to be your wife and helper,partner,suport system.i want this.  I am sure of that.  ” she told him. 

Jim was shocked . “bec i am not opposed to resuming our engagement.  In fact i really like the idea. I need you to know that i shaped the church in a way that i felt honored the lord. I left some evenlugical culture in place. I have focused on doctrine ,morals and modesty to the exclusion of orther issues.  Music is one of those issues.  I dont see the need to alter that.  I stil believe dreses or skirts is prefered atire for ladies but i don’t mandate it. ” he said. 

“I assumed that was your policy. I. Not going to change your church.  I want to be tour helper.i know you.i know you put the policies you did after carefull consideration with a lot of prayer. I trust you. I work to work with you not against you. I like  your church, i really do. I want to be a part of it. I believe i have gifts and abilities that can be an aset to the church. ” she said. 

“I can’t believe i am saying this but i really like the worship team. They do a good job. ” jim asmitted. “I gathered that.  ” she said. 

“The isues we faced before still exist.  There is rhe issue of your church and your family and myine. I am sure your parents will object. You could be a periah. ” he said. 

“Do you not want to be with me?you seam to be trying to push me away. “She said. “I just want to make sure that you understand the full ramifications of your decision.  ” he told her. 

“I do jim. I see God’s hand on your life. I see him working in faith bible church. I want to be a part of it. Let me!” she pleaded.

 Jim thought about it. “Faith church is very different. It is nothing like what your used to. It will require a lot of adjustment.  I am not sure you are prepared.  ” he told her.

“I am probably not. Thats ok. I will adjust. I will get though it. ” she said. “I do want to marry you. I have wanted to sense the first time i met you. I have to be certain your certain. ” he said.  “I understand that. I am totally sure. I am as sure as ruth was when she pledged herself to boez. You know how carefull i am when i speak. I do not say it lightly. I have given it a lot of thought. ” she declared.

“I know you dont do things unless your sure . unless you have put a lot of thought into it. I have always lived and appreciated that about you. Not to go all john macarthur on you but i feel i have to make it hard for you to follow.  This decison will affect your entire life. ” he told her.

“I realize that. I never ecpected you to reference john macarthur.  I understand the ramification of this. I am committed to this. I do it hapily!” she said. 

“Are you totally sure? “He asked. “Yes. I am totaly sure. ” she said with a smile on her face. “I am sorry to grill you. There is biblical presidence Joshua final adress. ” he said. 

“I thought that was where you were going with that. Do you want to grill me on my doctrinal stance or can we be engaged again?” she asked. 

He considered her words. He thought about it for a minute. She did not like the awkward silence. She knew that was how he did things. This was how he made decisions.  She would be patcient and would wait for him. 

“Do you want your old engagement ring or a new one?” he asked her.she smiled.  “I would like the old one ” she said. “Ok! I know right where it is. When will you be in town again?  ” he asked. “Well i am curently working on negotiating to buy part of bill braket’s book store. I will be hear frequently.  ” she told him. 

“You want to buy a share of bill’s bookstore?” he asked. “I do. I love runing the store om hagervile. I really want to move hear to be closer to you. I want to get more involved in faith church. I like his bookstore. ” she said. “What would you have done if i had said no? “He asked. “That was not an option.” she told him.

“Next time your in town we will get reengaged officially.  Your my fiancée again.  ” he told her. She smiled. He hugged her. ” i know i can fill in your gaps. I believe i can be a blessing.  ” she told him. 

“I know you will. ” he said. “I am so happy. ” she said. “What will your parents say? Your dad will hate to lose you at the bookstore.  ” he said.  “I know. I hate to leave but i am sure i am called hear.  I am sure of it. I can’t  stay where i am. I mean that figuratively and litetaly. I need to be hear . i need to be with you. ” he said.  “Ok. “He said. 

They walked out hand in hand. They said there goodbyes.  She drove back to hagervile. She had to tell her farther. She had become the head of day to day operations for the store. She would be leaving the store. 

“Dad we need to talk. “She told him.”ok. Pumpkin.  What is it?” her farther asked. “I reconnected with Jim.  He is pastoring a non denominational church in foster. We want to start the engagement.  ” she told him. 

 “Ok. I have always liked jim. I was sad when we left our church and joined the evengelical movement.  I felt that the lord has had his hand on his life. I am glad he is pastoring a church. When the engagement was broken off,  i suspected that it was not foever. I thought you reconnect.  I can suport this. ” he said.

“Thank you daddy but there is more. ” she said. “I knew it. ” he said. “I want to move to be closer to him. I want to be involved in his church. I will need to step away from the bookstore.  I want to buy a steak in a bookatore near the church. ” she said. 

“I gues i knew you would not stay hear foever. I loved working akongside you. I am excited for you and your new adventure. I am going to miss you. ” he said. She hugged her dad.

“I am pleased that you are continuing the book store tradition.  Your not too far away. “He said. “I will visit you and mom as often as i can. ” she said. “You will do fine!” he said. 

After a series of back and forth on the phone becca worked out am agreement to buy a share of the bookstore.  She would drive to foster to conclude the deal. She could begin the groundwork for there life together.  She was excited.she saw the lord at work.

 She drove to foster. She had a good meeting with bill. She worked out an agrement with bill and a time table for her to become general manager of the bookstore. She now had direction. She had a plan. She was pleased with all of this.  Things were comming together in a way she never planed.  

She liked this bookstore.concluding the deal was only part of the reason she came to foster. She got the business side of her trip out of the way. Then she could focus on the orther reason she came to town. 

She met up with him at the resturant. She saw him. “How did it go?” he asked.  “Great.  In a mounth i will oficialy take ovet as managing owner. My dad is sad to see me move but us happy for me. “She said.”congrats. I am happy for you. ” he told her. “Thanks. I am excited as well. It is an exciting new chapter ” she said. 

The dinner went well. Becca wanted him to hury up and reperpose. She wanted to once again ware the engagement ring. She wanted him to get on with it. She wanted to know he was really in this. She knew he had this thing about timing. She tried to be patcient.  She waited for years. She was not up on being patcient.

“Do you want desert? ” she asked. “Not really. ” she said. What she really wanted was for him to perpose again. She did not want to be distracted by disert. “Are you sure?  Thr chese cake is amazing hear. “He said. “Not tonight. “She said. Ok.no desert then. ” he said. She chuckled. 

He took care of the bill.  She got a little agitated. She did not want to say anything.  She wanted him to initiate this. She really hoped that he would not let her drive back to hagervile without getting engaged. She wanted to go home engaged. She waited a little bit longer. 

They walked outside. She almost did not hold her hand but she did not want to be like that. She tried to remain calm. It was not easy. The two neared the car. 

She was about to open the door when he stoped her. “Wait! “He said. She stoped what she was doing. “Yes.” she said. “I know you dissagreed with my breaking off the engagement.  We may never fully agree on this.  I am not sure. I was not as strong in my faith back then. I needed time to figure things out. I believe that i am in a stronger place spiritually.  I believe i am now ready to be married.  Will you marry me?” he asked.

“Yes! Absolutely!  ” she said. She huvged him. She did not want to let go. She just wanted to cling to this moment and to him as long as she could.  “You ok hunnie? ” he asked. “I was afraid that you were not going to perpose again. I am happy you did. I just want to be close to you. ” she told him. “Sory i waited.  ” he said. “Its ok. I am eager to begin our life together and ministry. ” she said.

“I can understand that. ” he said. “I just needed to know you want this as much as i do. ” she said. “Breaking the engagement was gut rencing and awfull. I thought if i left that world i would have to fully leave that world.  It killed me breaking up with you. I did not do it hapily. I just did not want you to see my tears. I thought of you constently. I almost called you a hundred times.  I never stoped loving you. “He told her. 

She hugged him. “You dont know how much i needed to hear that.  Dont take this the wrong way but i kinda wanted you to be miserable. I wanted you to desire us to get back together. I never gave up the hope that we would get maried. Now i understand why. ” she said. ” i am glad we are doing this!” she said. ” me too. ” he said.

To be continued. 
 

Unlikly couples part four

The next day,pastor Becky arived at the church. She went to her office. She saw a series of flowers on her desk.  “Whats this?”she asked. “Oh. It is for you.”her asistent jill said. She looked at the card. “To pastor becky. Hope this britghens your day. You have brightened myine. ” it was singed pastor craig. She chuckled.  

“Something you want to tell me becky?”Jill asked. ” he is a freiend?”she said.  “So is he the reason you went to hagervile?”she asked.  “Yea. He was the one that came to our church a few weeks ago.”Lilly said.

“Are things serious between you two?”jill asked.”i dont know. We did just meet. He is a fundy. I meen hatd core. “Lilly said. “Oh! He has not run for the hills?”jill asked. “Quite the opposite.  “Lilly said.  “You have not run for the hills?”jill asked. “No i have not. Should i?”lilly asked. 

“I have never seen you like this. ” remarked.  “I have not felt like this i. Some time. ” lilly said. “Your bot afraid it cant work?  You two are destened for dissaster?”jill asked. “No i am woried about that. ” lilly asked. 

“Why are you not runing for the hills?”jill asked. “Becuase i dont want you.” lilly said.  “I figured. Well i hope it works out. I really do. “Jill said. Lilly did not say abything but she hoped that too. 

Later on in the day. Craig called her. “Hi craig!”she said. “Did you get the flowers?”he asked. “I did. Thank you so much. They were beautiful.  It was very thoughtfull. “Lilly answered. “I hoped it was not too soon. ” he said.”no! Your timing was perfect.  “She said. 

She wondered what he ment by two soon. Was he thinking that they were a couple or would be someday. What was he thinking? Did he think that they had a future together. Did he want them to? 

“I’m glad. Your not alurgic. I almost asked you but. I did not want to give away the secret. ” he said. “I am definently not alergic to flowers.  ” she said. “I am glad you like them. ” he said. 

She found that he had a way of calming her. She liked that about him.he knew how to sooth her. The more she got to know him the more she came to love him. She admired him. She found him to be kind and gentle. 

Though she was known as a strong leader at her church.  She was confident and competent.  She coukd be forcefull. She has wisdom and was good at stratigy. He had goals and had a plan to bring them to fruition. To outsiders she seemed to be all bussiness all the time. She was a workahilic. 

She seemed to be all work. She had no real social life. When not involved in church activities she was involved in comunity and civic events. That was not the real her. Craig started to see a different side of her. 

They rearanged there shudule so they could get tohether on saterday. Saterday morning they got ready for sunday. Saterday afternoon they would spend the afternoon together.  It was his turn to come see her. 

She made chicken salid sandwitch. She made a chese cake for desert.  She brought chips. She liked to bake . she did not do it much. She was constently on the go. 

He met up her at a park. They usualy did not engage in hardly any public display of affection but she hugged him. “How is the surmon coming?”she asked. “Really good. I am preaching on finding peace with God. My primary text is Romans. 3:24 but i am going to go though several ddifferent. verses.  You have it easy.  All you do is follow the lectionary. ” he said.

“Yes the topic is assigned.  I can have the fredom to take it where i will. I put my iwn personal touch. It is usualy a bit vaugue. ” she said. “If the topic or passege of scrupture is assigned mounths in advance by some luturgical body somewhere,where does work of the holy sprit come in? I dont know how many times my entire surmon has changed sometimes minutes before the surmon begins.” he said.

“God is a God of order. Lectionary is a tool that can keep a preacher from avoiding rabit trails. By designating the pasege it reduces the risk of preaching a pet peve. ” she said. 

“I am careful not to go on a rabit trail. I dont know if i could never get use to having my surmon topics assigned every week. At bible colege i waa asishned to preach from seccond chronicles 7:14. I believe that was for the original readers not directly given to twenty first century america. The professor felt differently. I avoided the promise and dealt with it in the context of israel. I delt with getting right with God and his restoration while avoiding the promise aspect. I got good comments from the proof. He felt i should have tied it to america. Oh well!” he said. 

“I take it you are big on independence of the local church?” she asked. “Yes. I believe that local churches shoyld be self governed.  I dont believe that churches should be islands.  I meet up with area fundamental pastors. My dad is a pastor and i stay in touch with him. I keeo acontible with an area pastor i should consider a sprituel farther.i do believe in acontibility. ” he said. 

The picnic was a huge success.  He loved the chicken salid sandwitch.  She did not realize he could eat. He was thin . Almost too thin. He did eat. She wore a gray shirt and green skirt.she had removed her flip flops. The day was going great. Then he had to say it.

 “What are we? Are we dating?” he asked. “No! Lets not go there!”she said. She seemed nervous,agitated. “I dont understand “he said. “I dont want to go there yet. We realy enjoy eachothers compony. I know i love being with you. I think you enjoy spending time with me. ” she told her.”i do. Very much so. “He answered.

“Once we try to figure this all out then its gets complicated. We have to deal with the eliphent im the room neither one of us knows how to. I know we are going to have to deal with all of this but i dont want to yet.i dont know if we can sort all of  this. “She said. 

“Im sory. I did not meen to upset you. Your right.  I probably should have waited to ask. I got curios. “He said. “Its ok. This is a fantasy isn’t it. Your a separatist Baptist,i am a welcoming united Methodist.  We are entranced in our denominational ideologies. It is crazy to think we can make this work.  One of us would have to leave there world and embrace the other. I dont think it could work long term without it. ” she said. 

“You believe for our relationship to work long term,one of us has to give up our dream?” he asked.  “Dont you?” she asked. “I gues your right. “He said. “You would want me to be the one to resign? You dont see female ministers as legitimate.  Of course i should be the one to quit. ” she said. 

“I dont believe bibilicaly women should be pastors.  God is creator and redemer, he gets to decide how his church is governed. God designed men to be in leadership even before the fall. “He said.

“I disagree.  Yes it does say the bishop is to husband of one wife. That is an example.  There is no explicit command that a pastor must be male.”she said. “That is a bit of linguistic gymnastics. “He said. “I dont think so.  How do we make this work? Can we realistically? “She asked. 

“I dont know!”he asked. “I figured. “She said. “I am sory i brought it up. I did not meen to upset you.”he said “its ok. I know that. Why did you show up a week later? You could have gone back to hagervile and we could have never seen eachother again. Why risk it all?” she asked. 

“I dont believe my stoping at your church was an acident.   I was not lonly or inconplete or any of that before i met you. At least i did not think so. I did not perposly remain single during the last few years.  I believe i needed to focus on the ninistry. Focus on establishing the church and establishing myself. I believe God work on the best timing,his timing not ours.  Meeting you was the highlight of that whole trip. I could not stop thinking about you. I dismissed it at first but i knew there was more going on. ” he said.

“I will never be your dream wife. I am not exactly independent fundimental Baptist.  I could not get out of that world. You can take me out of the pastorate but i wont be your kind of wife. Thats just not who i am.  You would not be happy as a united Methodist pastor’s husbend?” she said. 

“Is that you want? Me to resign from gospel Baptist  and be a pastor’s husband? ” he asked. “I could not ask that of you.you believe that this is God’s caling in your life.  I would not want to undermine that. So where does that leave us? A masive stand still. ” she said. 

“Would you rather have had me not come back a week later?” he asked. “It might have made life easier. It would have been simpler.  No i wouldn’t. That would have made me sad not to see you again.  ” she answered.

They tabled the conversation for a while.  There was a voly ball net set up. They played for a bit. They each won three games.  He decided he should head back. She made him promise he would call when he got home. She worried until he called.

 “Hi bec. Im home!”he said. “Good im glad. I did have a good day with you. I love spending time with you.” she said. “I had a good time with you.  I love hanging out with you. ” he said.  

Things were complicated between them. They both knew it. Neither one knew how to solve it.  Perhaps there was for another time.  

To be continued.  

This is now part two

“So are you dating anyone?”jim asked.  “No . i am not. ” she said. “You should.  Your an amazing godly women. You will make a great wife. You should be open to finding someone. “He told her.

She had no idea how to respond to all of this.  Why did he say that? Did he have no interest in her? Why was he pushing her to move on? Why did he want her to mary someone else.  She found this disconcerting and frustrating.  She tried to remain calm but she found it dificult to do so. 

“I am at peace.  I trust that the lord will provide a husband at the proper time. I am content. I seeno need to get nervous about it. “She said.

“You will be a great wife!” he said. Why did he keep saying that? She thought to herself. It irked her. She wanted to be his wife. Why was he pushing this?

“Your not seing anyone?” she asked. “I am too buisy. I believe i can date a sister in the church.  It is problematic.” he said.
“You dont regret not marying me? “She asked. “We were heading into different directions.  Two canot walk unless they be agreed.  You would not be happy in this world. I would not be happy in yours. It was not ment to be. “He said. 

“I dont agree. I dont think i ever will. You should have trusted me. You should have given me a chance. ” she said.   

She did not want there reunion to be like this.  She did not want them to fight. She just wanted to be happy with him. Despite her hurt she stik had strong feelings towards him.she still loved him.

He had no idea how to respond to what she said. “You have to admit that we were heading in different directions.  Your patents were have never suported it. It would have been a mess. I did not want to make you chose between your family and me. I still believe in parental oversight of marriage.  I did not want to put you though that.  ” he said.

“When you perposed i said yes. I pledged myself to you. I knew you were unhappy with fundamental bsptist policies and procedures. I knew you might distence yourself from the movement and gospel baptiat church.i committed to go whever you went. You just left. You did not give me a chance.  I did not have a choice. “She said. 

“If i had, would you have gone with me? Would you havel left fundamental baptist and gone to an evengelical church? Would you disappointed everyone at church and at the college?  I was not sure who i was. I had to figure that out. “He said.

“I would have gone with you. I was prepared to fo just that.  I knew it would have been hard. If my parents had withdrawn there suport i would have tried to sit down and talk to them. I still wanted to Mary you. I knew you were not leaving the faith. Im sorry. Im sory i did not want our reunion to be like this. I am so glad to see you. “She said. 

He smiled. “I am so glad to see you.  I missed you. ” he admitted. “I am so glad your pastoring a church. I liked seing you playing a guter. Never thought i would see that.  “She said.

She did not want to leave but it was getting late.  She had a ways to go. She came to see the reunuon not as a accidental occurence but a devine appointment.  “I should be heading back. ” she said.  “It was good to see you bec. Look call me as soon as you get home. I want to know home safely.  “He told her. “I will i promise!”she said. 

She could tell that he did still care.  It warmed her heart. He walked her to her car. “Dont be a stranger. Feel free to come back to the church any time. “He told her. “Thanks i think i will. “She said.he hugged her. He planed for it to be a quick hug but becca was not quite ready to let him go. The embrace continued before they let each other ago. 

“I will see you around. “She said. “Im glad. I want that.” he said. “I do too. “She said. They started to disperse. They went there seperate ways.  That would not be foever.

On her ride home,she kept thinking about jim. Something was stired in her.  Her family and church had encouraged her to date again. They even tried to set her up with someone else.  She recoiled at every turn. As she drove home ,she began to realize why. She still wanted to marry him. She was just not sure how to convince him of that.  Would he want her back?

When she got home, she called home. “Hi. I made It home. ” she told him. “Hey bec. Im so glad. I was woried.i figured that you would be fine but i was still concern. “He told her. “You do still care about me?”she asked. “Always!” he said.  

“Im so glad to hear that. ” she replied. “Seing you today was the hilight of my day. Some things don’t change do they?” he asked.  “No they dont.” she told him. ” it was really good to see you. I missed you.  ” he said. “I am so happy i got to see you. ” she said. 

Becca had a warm feeling about seing him. Something was stired in her. She would not let him go this time. Her feelings for him had not change. Mayby back then was not the right time. She was begining to think now might be.

Did he feel the same way about her that she did about him? He was a different person. Could it work? She felt an urgency about this. She realy wanted to get back together with him. She knew it involved change and sacrifice. What relationship did not. 

During mid week bible sunday pastor jim as he was called, was flooded with questions.  He expected as much. “So who is becca? “Ben asked. “She is an old friend from my fundy days. “He said. “You are just friends?” another asked.  “Well! …”he said.

He was suprised by his church’s interest in her. He kept to business iness. He poored himself in the church. He did not make time for much else. Seing him with her peeked there intetest.

They saw a different jim. He was task orientated.  He was qiet. Around her he was different.  He was relaxed.  The church loved there pastor and he them. They wanted to see him happy. 

When becca got home, she was not at peace.  She had no idea Why this meeting had such an impact. One day she read devotional about how isack found his wife.  She felt stirred. She felt luke God was about timing. He did things in the right time. She felt this was the right time. 

To be continued. 

Next up becca decided to move to the same town as jim. 

“This is now!” 

James ball grew up in the independent fundamental baptist church. His dad was a pastor. He knew becca Lynn most of his life. They went from acquaintance to friends then from friends to close friends.  They started a formal courtship right before they went to bible college.

He had gotten permisson from her farther to formerly purpose marriage.  They planed the wedding, there life and ministry. Then it all changed. 

James grew up very tradional. Some would call him old fashioned.  He was hardly armish. He liked to snowmobiling.  He played video games. He liked cqr racing games but not ones like grand theft auto.  He was opposed to contemporary Christian music. He only listened to the old hyms. He did not own a tv. 

Things changed for him. He became disillusioned with the independent fundamental baptist movement.  He believed in seperation but felt it could sometimes go too far.  There was an incident that broke the canmels back. He was very close with a cousin that attended a non fundimental church. His cousign asked him to be his best man. The church alowed ccm. Whem his colege learned that he did that,they sactioned him. He had to resign his post in student government and as a dorm supervisor.  

He did graduate.  His reputation was somewhat tarnished. He did keep being involved in his farthet’s house. His views were not as strong as they use to be. Despite these strugles,his relationship with becca remained strong. 

Becca’s grandparents were missionaries to the philipines. Her farther was a deacon and Sunday school teacher.  He also owned an old fashioned Christian bookstore that only caried sacred music,king james bibles ans refused to cary any books asociated with reformed theology. 

Becca was a few younger then jim. She had always admired jim. Even qt a young she could tell that he was serious about his faith.  His faith continued to grow. Her admiration for him also grew. No one was suprised when they did date. 

When they made there relationship official, they did it with the expectation that they would be maried. The church also had the expectations as well. She got excited for wedding preparations.  

She had gone with him to the wedding of his cousign. Both knew coming in that it would not be an i.v.b ceremony or reception. She knew he was very brothered by the school sactioned him. That incident made him questoned everything.  He tried to shield her from that. 

She was commited to separation and to the i.v.b. he was afraid to engage her on all this. She tried to talk to him about it. Everytime she tried to engage him,he froze up. He eventually decided to leave his father’s church and severed all ties with the i.f.b. he did not feel that he could drag her into this. 

He decided to break off the engagement with becca. She was devastated.  The local church and area i.f.b were in an uprour. There had been presure on her to break it off. Her family put pressure on her as well. She tried to talk him out of it. He would not budge.  After the breakup they went there seperate ways.

Jim started attending the same church as hie cousign.  They starrted a setilite church to there home church. Eventualy the church asked him to become there pastor. 

Becca took over day to day operations of the book store. She was active in her church. She became a chior director.  She was kept buisy. There was potential suters but she refused there entities.  Her parents tried to get her to move on.she went on one date. She regreted it. 

Her parents were concerned.  They realy wanted her to move on from jim. She could not. She secretly hoped that she would one day get back with him. 

One day becca was driving back from a confrence. She wanted to find a church to atend on her way back. She found faith church.she parked the car. 

She went inside and sat down. A young women came over to her. “Hello welcome to faith church. ” she said. She gave her a welcone pakege. Becca thanked her.

Becca noticed that while everyone dressed casualy,they were dresed modesty and neat. The service began.she saw the last person she expexted to see. It was jim. He wore a butoned down shirt . he wore jeens. She had lost touch with him.

“I would like to welcome you to faith church. To our visitors,i would like to give you a special welcome. Im pastor jim. We are a unique church.  I hope you will enjoy your time hear. I hope the lord will speak to you though what goes on hear . ” he said. 

He made announcements and gave an opening prayer.  The worship team came up to the podium. Jim played the guitar.  She chuckled. The music was ccm. 

Jim preached.  She did not realize how much she missed his preaching.his preaching style didnot change.she missed his preaching. She missed his booming voice.  His doctrine did not seam to change.  She missed him. He stil put buterfiles in her stomich.

After the service she tried to see him. There were a lot of people there. It was hard to get to him. She realy wanted to see him. She really did not want to leave hear without seing him.he was talking to people whenhe saw her. 

He was shocked. “Will you excuse me?” he asked. He went off to see her.”becca?” he asked. “Hi jim.excuse me pastor jim. “She said. He hugged her. “What are you doing hear?” he asked.

“I was on my way home back from faithful women’s confrence and was looking for a church to attend. “She said. “It is good to see you. “He said. “Your the pastor?”she asked. “Yes. Marcus and i founded this church as an off schoot of grace church. Marcus moved on to start new churches. I was voted pastor. ” he said. “I enjoyed your surmon. It brought back memories. ” she told him.

“My preaching style realy has not changed sence my time at gospel baptist church. I stil preach from the king james. ” he said. “I see that. “She said. ” we are not a kjv pnly church. I only use the king James. ” he said. “I am very glad to hear that.” she told him. 

“Reports of my becoming a liberal have been greatly exaggerated. ” he said. “I never thought that you became a liberal. “She said. “You didn’t? ” he asked. ” i know you better then that. Jim. Pastor jim.i know your heart. I know where your conviction were.  ” she said. “I am glad of that. I feared you would think ill Of me. ” he told her. “Not at all. You are serving the lord. I am glad of that. ” she said. 

“Look i know i have some driving to do.care to go out for cofee? We can chat a bit. I would love to catch up. ” he said.  “I would love that. “She said.

“I can’t believe your hear?” he remarked. “I cant believe im talking to you. I missed you. ” she told him. “I can only imagine what your perents would say if they knew you had gone to faith church or that you had seen me” he said. “How are things between you ans your perents? ” she asked. “We are stil close. I talk to them almost every week. We dont about church. They dont see my pastorate as legitimate.  I think in there eyes i back slid. This is worse then joning a biker gang.” he said. 

“You have not realy changed doctrinaly.”she said. “No i realy have not. I believe in a form of seperation. I have not abandoned my core principles. ” he told her. “I see you are the same you i have always known.”she said.  “Thank you.  That meens alot. I would hate if if you thought i was a liberal. ” he said. “I see evidence to the contrary.  You have my suport. ” she said. “I am pleased to hear that bec. I take my walk with the lird seriously.  ” he told her. “I know that. I have never thought otherwise. ” she said.

“I am glad to hear that. I imagine that many at gospel baptist church feel differently.  “He said.”you have ylur detractors. I have never been one of them. ” she said.”i am glad to hear that. ” he said.

“Why did you break off the engagement?  “She asked.  “Bec you are the epitome of the i.f.b. you would not have followed me to evangelicalism.  If you did you would not have been happy.  I figured we would end up breaking up Eventualy.  Why dalay the inevetible! ” he said.

“Our breakup was not inevetible.  I commited yourself to you when you perposed. I knew you were having doubts. You never gave me a chance. You should have trusted me. ” she told him. 

“I figured you would not have wanted to go with me. You are prety traditional.  I did not want to back yoy into a corner. Your parents would have never alowed it. I cant believe you would have agreed to go with me. You would not have been happy in my world. ” he told her.

“I believed i was called to marry you. I had reason to believe that you were called to be my husband.  I emotionally invested in our mariege. I wanted to be maried to you.  I was prepared to go with you. ” she said. 

“I could not have put you in a situation where you had to chose between me and your parents.  That would be unfair. “He said.

“In trying to protect me,you put me in a worse situation.  You abandoned me. I wanted to marry you. ” she said “she thought to herself, i stil do but decided not to say it out loud. “I understand your position.  It was not going to work out. I was not going back to gbc or tje i.vb. you belonged in that world.”he told her.  

“I knew once you left you would never be coning back. I was ok with that.  You should have given me a  chance.  ” she said. 

As they talked, a group of younger people came over to them.”pastor i dont usually see you hear on a sunday night?” he said. “No ben i usualy dont come hear on Sunday night. “He said. “Who is this? “Kevin asked.  “This is becca. ” he said.

“I take it your old friends? ” ben asked.  “You could say that. ” jim answered. “I had no idea you knew ladies existed. ” kevin saidm”i take it your not curently romantically involved with anyone right now? “She asked. ” no he has notm ” ben said.

Becca was glad to hear that.  She never fully gave up on the relationship.  She was glad he had not dated someone else. After a while the church people left.

“So are you dating anyone? ” he  asked. “No i am not. ” she said. “You should.  Your an amazing godly women.  You will make a great wife.  You should be open to finding someone” she said.

She had no idea how to respond to that. Why did he say that? Did he have no interest in her? Why was he pushing her away? Why he want her to be happy with someone else. She found it discouraging and frustrating.  She tried to remain calm. 

To be continued.