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Arranged mariege part six

Jeny was excited about getting maried.all her life,she was told her mariege would be aranged by her family. The fact that she could not chose her future husband did not brother her. She kind of liked the mystery. 

He was not what shr expected. She was skepitcal at first. She was not sure that this could work.  

She decided to give it a chance.  She found that she did like him. Despite there differences, she suspected that they could make a go of this.  

She fell alseep that night in his arms. She woke up the next moring. She layed in bed for a bit. It was clear that she was not going to fall back to sleep. 

He was still asleep. She decided to get up. She tried to tip toe out of bed without being heard.  She wanted to let him wake up on his own. 

She made it to the smal kitchen-living room. She made the watter for cofee. She then put the cofe in. Then she truned the cofee maker on. 

She made sausage eag breakfast sadnwitches. She was not surety when he was waking up bit it was stil fearly early. She read over Romans one while she was cooking. She was good at multi tasking. 

He came into the dining area looking like a zombie. “Your not awake are you love?”she asked. “Not really. ” he said. She laughed. “Cofee is ready. I got sausage mufins done.” she said. “Cool sounds good.” he said. 

She laughed. “You can sleep in longer of you want to hunnie.”she told him. “Oh no! I’m fine. I am beyond the point of faling back asleep. ” he said.”i am not concinced of that but ok.”she said.

“So what are our plans for the day?” he asked. ” well i thought we would go in the canoe again. ” she said.” cool. Sounds good. ” he said. “Then play some basketball. Then there is a cofee house that has jazz night. ” she said.

“Ok. ” he said. “Not keen on the jazz thing ?”she asked.” its fine. ” he said.” your sure?” she asked. “Of course. ” he said. “Ok. Just making sure. ” she said. 

He enjoyed the sausage sandwitch. After a few more cups of cofee, he was much more awake then he had been. He felt like he was able to function more then he had been. 

“I am awake now!” he said.  “Thats good to hear. ” she said. “I did not hear you get up. ” he said. ” that was what i figured. I was trying not to wake you. ” she said. “You succeeded. ” he reaplied. “I am glad of that. ” she said. 

“Breakfast was amazing.  Thank you.” he said. “No problem. It did come out good.” she acknowledged.  They put everything away and thew away the trash. 

They got ready for there day.  They got dressed. They headed for the beach area. He paid for the rentle. He came out. They went to the canoe. He helped her in to the small craft. They got the life jackets on and took out the paddles. The craft lunched.  

They went out a bit.”this is so calm.so peaceful.  I love it out hear!” she said.”i can tell. I do too. ” he said. “I have always liked the watter. “She said. 

“I like being on the watter. Just not in the water.  ” he said. “You dont like to swim?” she asked. “No. swiming is not really not my thing. I like being in a boat. ” he said. “Ah. I love everything about water.  From being in a boat to swimming.  I love it. ” she said.

“I will watch you swim from the shore!” he told her. She chuckled. “Ok. ” she answered. 

They stayed in the water for quite a while. Then they went back to shore. They returned the canoe. They walked hand in hand though the property. 

They went to the basketball court.  They started playing basketball. They started to play. She loved sports. They got conpetitve but it was all in fun. They played a few games. She won some, he won some as well. There were a lot of laughs. 

“You give me quite a work out. ” he said. “I realy get in to my game.  ” she declared. “I can tell. ” he said. She high fived him. “Still friends? ” she asked in a playful mannor.he chuckled. “Still friends! ” he said. He hugged her. Then he kissed her. She was not expecting that. 

They did not kiss alot. He did not seam to be too keen on physical contact. They frequently held hands. She was surprised he kissed her in the open.  Perhaps he was easing in to all of this. 

He was a mystery to her.  He was serious. He was stoic. He seem to vailue logic above emotion. Not quite vulcan but close. He seemed to be a student of plato. 

At the same time, he was a very funny man. He had a dry sence of humor. He liked to laugh. He liked to joke around. She was not sure how to interpret him. She had not quite figured him out. That was ok.she liked a good mystery.  He was definently that. 

They went back to the cabin. He grilled hot dogs and hambergers. The cabin had a small fire pit outside the cabin. She took off her shoes. 

They eat outside in a picnic table . “these are really good. “She said. “I am so glad your not a vegiterian or vegan! ” he remarked. She laughed. “I like vegetables.  I am not a carnivore like some people i know. I eat meat. I would not like just fruits and vegetables.  I want a verity in my diet. ” she said. 

“I dont know how i would handle it if you were vegetarian.  ” he admitted. “I dont think that that would go over well. ” she responded. “Probably not. ” he admitted.  They laughed. 

“If you were, we would figure it out. ” he said. “I am sure we would.  The good thing is that that is not a concern. ” she said. “True. ” he said. 

They hung out at the cabin for a while. Then they changed and got ready to go to the cofee house. 

She hoped that she was not pushing him too far by draging him to this. Pethaps this was a bridge too far. He did put her in charge of there days activities. A mariege involves two people. She hoped that he would not be miserable at the. Event. She considered not going. She did want to. She decided to go along with it.  It could be interesting. 

She had no idea what he was thinking. Some times she wished that she had telepathy.  Other times she did not . She wished she did right now. How far could she push him? What was his limit?  

They got ready to go. They changed cloths. He wore a polo shirt and tan pants. She wore a pink blouse and green skirt and flip flops. They headed out. 

They got into the car.  She drove this time. The cofee house was not that far away from the cabin. They parked at the parking lot. They got out of the car. They walked to the building. They went inside. 

They paid the smal entry fee. He got a hazelnut cofee and she got french vanila. She suspected he might be nervous about all this. She hopped that this was not a huge mistake. She hoped that this would not produce a big fight or a small one for that matter.  She tried not to burrow trouble. She did not want to create a conflict that did not exist and might not. She calmed down. 

The jazz band started.  She loved it. There were several grouos. They were all very good. She was realy enjoying herself. She got a bit caught up in her own happiness. .she wondered how he was doing. She hoped that he was ok.  She wondered what was going though his mind. 

The show lasted a couple hours.  They left walking hand in hand. “I hope that you were not too bored?” she remarked. “No. It was not too bad. ” he said. “I had a lot of fun. ” she said.”i can tell. I am glad you had fun. ” she said. 

“Was it really ok?” she asked. He squeezed her hand. “Of course. This is your honey moon. I want you to enjoy yourself. ” he told her. “Your going to have to do this again sometime and again.  ” she admonished him. “I know that jen. I am fine with that. ” he said. 

“It was ok we did this?” she asked. “Of course.  ” he assured her. “Ok. Just making sure. ” she told him. They got into the car. The car headed back to the cabin. 

They got ready for bed. She put tank top snd pj bottoms.  He wore shorts. She put on a star trek episodes on her lap top. They cuddled while watching. 

“So are you sick of me yet?” she asked.  He smiled. “No. Not at all. Are you sick of me?” he asked. She kissed him . Then she smiled.  

After a while they decided to go to bed. She was getting used to be maried to him. She was enjoying him. She felt that they would be a good couple. She was glad of that. After a while they both fell asleep.  

End of part six. 

Next up.

The two try to agree on an itinery for the day. They visit a Baptist church’s midweek and roast marshmelows.  

Aranged mariege part three 

Jenny and James arived at the cabin. They unpacked then sat down on the couch.neither one knew what to say. They tried but could not get the words out. They sat in silence for a little bit. ” This is awkward!”he said. “It really is. “She said.”think we will unable to talk to each other?”she asked. “I hope not. I guess we will have to work on it. It may take time. “He said. “It may.”she said.

“I guess I was not what you expected.”she remarked.”no your not.i suppose I am not what you exoected?”he asked.”not really? “She said.”did you expect me to be passive? “He asked.”no but Manny united Methodist pastors husband’s are. I don’t really know why?”she said in a tounge in cheek fasson.he laughed then she laughed. Neither one expected that. He began to suspect that she was very playful. He found even then his heart was slowly starting to melt. 

“Yes I did expect that you would be a united Methodist or at least a Methodist. Did you expect me to be independent fundimental Baptist and not an ordained minister?”she asked. “I did expect you to be I.f.b and not a minister.”he said.”you wanted a demure women who would not think for herself?”she asked.”no I don’t want someone who is demure.i am open to different idea. I don’t expect you to agree with me all the time. I welcome alternative suggestions. I know I am not always right. I am a sinner saved by grace. I know I am not infallible. I believe I am called to be a leader. A servent leader. I take the servent part very seriously!”he told her. 

“Are you commited to this?”she asked.he looked into her eyes. He took her hand and squzed it. “Yes I am commited to you. I made a promise to the Lord and to your Perents and to you. I take that serious. I know what to make rash vows. I believe that the Lord brought us together. I trust him. I believe that the Lord brought us together. I don’t understand it. I also believe that he wants me to live up to those vows.the Bible is clear not to make rash vows. I want to do this. Yes I am committed. Are you commited to this?”he asked.

She smilled. “Yes I am. I am nervous. This is now quite what I expected but yes I am commited to this and to you.”she said. “What are you nervous about?”he asked. ” Nervous that I will never meet your expectations. I guess I am nervous that you will ashamed of me. I fear you will never accept me. I fear that you will never respect me. I fear that we won’t ever really connect. “She said. 

“There is no denying that we are both out of our comfort zone. This is not at all what either of us expected. ” He said. “That is very true . ” She said. “We will have to work at this. I expect it will take hard work. Perhaps harder then we ever expected. ” He said. “Yea I am beginning to see that. They say the best marieges are the ones that take work. The ones that both sides are committed to making it work no matter what. What destroy us instead make our relationship stronger. Perhaps that can happen with us. Perhaps it will. I definitely hope so. “She said. 

He started to see that there were two  side of Jenny. Two complete wholes. One was the strong Jenny. The leader,the administrator. The alpha,the go getter. The anilitical stoic at times. Then there was the other Jenny. This was a softer more emotional person. A person who was very sensitive. Fragile perhaps. Both sides were all hear. She was both of these personalities.botg of these gestalts if you will.he saw her at first as only the minister Jenn not the personal Jenn. He started to see that side of her. She was starting to let him see that side of her. It was part intentional and part unintentional. 

“I am out of my comfort zone. I did expect you to be I.f.b. I did not expect you to be demure but I expected we would have the same experiences. We will have the same base.th same starting point as far as core values. “He said.”I know exactly what you need.now we are not even sure where our starting point is.”she said”yes I can definitely see that. “He said. “The early days will be hard. They could also be the most important. It could be worse. I could be ucc or unitarian . ” She said. “Very true! ” He said. They both laughed. 

“So  according to Wikipedia,united Methodist is both mainline and evengelical?” He asked. “Yes. I guess we are slightly towards the liberal end of evengelical. We are still evengelical I would say. So independent fundimental Baptist don’t consider themselves prostistent? “She asked.”there is differences of opinion of that. I personally believe in a principial view of Baptist history.i believe that a Baptist principle had excited back to the early church. I don’t believe in landmark view that is almost a Baptist succession form peater. I don’t believe that Baptist are prostistent. In fact Baptist were under instence persicution commonly over the baptism isue.”he said. 

“You like church history? “She asked. “I do. Baptist history is an interest in particular.mostly because it is not that well known even by fellow Baptist. It plays into Baptist theology as well. Do you like church history?”he asked.”very much so. I like history overall. I was interested in church history before college but college grew that passion definitely.”she said. 

“So, do you believe in diety of Christ?” He asked. “Yes I do.” She said. ” Salvation by faith alone?” He asked. “I do believe that salvation is by faith alone apart from works. ” She said. ” Is there salvific truth in other religions?”he asked. ,”You had to ask that one? No I do not believe that there is salvific truth in other religions. “She said. “Few! Is the Bible literal?”he asked. “Yes .I do believe that the Bible is literal. I believe that it is the word of God cover to cover!”she said. “Just not the part about pastors being males.!”he said! “I should have known that you would go there. First Timothy does mention male pastors or elders but there is no command that a pastor must be male. The husband of one wife is an example not a command.”she declared.”um I don’t know about that! I think it is clear form the text that leadership in the church is to be male. “He said “to answer your questions yes I do take the Bible literily.”she said. ” I take it you listen to contemporary Christian music.”he remarked. “I do! K love is my favorite radio station. I listen to secular music as well. I take it you are hyms only?”she asked. “I am.i don’t listen to ccm. “He said. “I assume you don’t watch TV?”she asked! “No I assume you do?”he asked.”I do . I love Star trek and crime dramas.”she said. Star trek? A nerd as well?”he asked.”I bit. I like sports as well. I was captian of the seminary volley ball team.i take it you were probably captian of the debate team?”she asked.”pretty much. I was on the Bible college soft ball game but it was intermural.i love sports but I should definitely not give up my day job.”he said. They both laughed. 

They both made each other laugh. Even though they were taken a back by each other,they were very playful. They seam to enjoy being in each other’s company. Despite there differences,they were starting to become closer. That was becoming more and more clear . 

“What do you want me to be like?”she asks.”well I don’t want to change you. I want to get to know you. I am not trying to transform you into a clone of me. I am not turn you into me .What is the phrase resistnce is futile?I am not like that. I really not that strict. I am but I am easy going as well. “He said. “OK you do upright but I think I can work with you?”she said in a joking Mannie.”you really think I’m upright?”he asked.”slightly but not too rigid. “She told him. They laughed. 

He hugged her. She held on to him. He put his arm around her. They both knew it was not going to be easy. They were both wiling to give it a chance. After a while they decided to call it a night. It had been a long day. They were both exchausted. They both fell asleep. 

The next morning he woke up. He was bright at first. After a few minutes if just sitting in bed,he got to the point that he was not going to fall back asleep. He started to get up.”what are you doing?”she askd. ” I was going to put the cofee on!” He said. ” What time is it? ” She asked. “A little after seven.” He said. ” Oh OK!  Please tell me your not like John Wesley?”she remarked. You need if I wake up at four am I feel like my faith is slipping? No I am not. “He said.”,glad to hear it.” She said. “You drink coffee ?”he askd. “I do.”she said. 

He kissed her cheek. He went to the small kitchen area.he out wetter into the pot. He out in the cofee and turned it on. She came into the small kitchen.she was still a bit groggy. “Good morning hunnie! “He said. “Morning . Not sure if it is good.”she said. He hugged her.”not a morning person?”he askd.”not at all. “She said. “I suspected as much!”he said.  ” Your not a morning person are you?” She asked. ” I think I am not of a morning person then you are.i do enjoy sleeping in. “He Said. “That is good.”,she said.

“,So what is on the agenda today?”she asked. “I figured we would have a simple breakfast. Muffins. Church starts at ten. We are not going to do a lot of jumping and dicing but a little bit.tomrow will be a little more laid back.i know this is our hunnie moon.”he said.” I figure we are going to a Fundy church?”she askd. “Yes.”he said.”OK! I will give it a chance!,”she Said. They had a light breakfast then got ready to go. 

End of part three